Hey Reader,

Heads up: I'm going live on youtube tomorrow to record 2 podcast episodes: first, we're talking about this pivot I'm in. Next, we're doing some Values FAQs. Come for one or both!

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Here’s what I wrote in my journal a couple weeks ago:

And well, 12 days later, I'm squarely in the Pivot. (Which is a super sticky place to be. Especially as someone who looooooves knowing what I'm aiming at!)

And this pivot isn't the sexy kind with a new photoshoot in the calendar and a big everything I've been working on reveal date circled in red.

Instead, it's the kind where everything’s a little blurry, and I know way more about what's not working than I do about what will down the road.

So I haven't known how to talk about being mid-pivot (I tend to think that if I'm sending a newsletter, I need to offer Answers), but I ran a quick poll on Instagram and 100% of respondents said they're in some sort of transition too. ONE. HUNDRED. PERCENT.

So if we’re all in the stairwell right now—trapped between where the couch was and where it's going next, trying our best to get everyone else to do things on our timeline ala Ross Gellar—here are five things I want us both to know.

(Of course, as always, take what works and leave the rest.)

1. It only feels like you're spinning out.

I get it. In the moment, it feels like you're on a hamster wheel, running nonstop and going nowhere.

In this moment, you need to do two things:

1. Zoom out. Because the long view gives us so much perspective.
2. Slow down. Because you can't maintain your straight-away speed through a turn.

And needing to do these things is just how change works. (So if you're beating yourself up for them, keep reading.)

2. You have to let yourself be in the transition. Even though it's annoying.

There's this way we think deciding something needs to change means we should immediately be on the other side of the change, at the threshold of the next beginning.

Except. Of course, we have to go from where we are to that next place. And sometimes that looks like making our way through some muck.

Some uncertainties.

Some feels-messy squidgy middle.

And going through it? It's actually the only way to the other side. To the "different" we know we want.

Which means: if you've been feeling like you're going through it, you are. Keep going. It's the only way to the other side.

3. Don't rush your way out of the discomfort.

Look. We love certainty. Having the answers. Being able to match reality to our vision of how things should be.

But usually life has other plans. And these transitions definitely do.

So take care not to sprint through, because that's when things break. Or you get injured.

And cleaning up the shattered glass (or rehabbing your shattered knee!) actually takes so much longer than just proceeding with steady steps. One at a time.

4. Judging the progress and beating ourselves up for not being there yet? Does nothing good.

The truth is if beating ourselves up was an effective Life Fulfillment Strategy, we'd be there.

But it's not, so keep an eye on the tendency to judge yourself. (And, of course, if you catch yourself judging, don't beat yourself up for that either!)

Grace and faith, right? Those are the umbrellas we're operating under, right?

5. This pivot is NOT starting over

Even though it feels like you are.

This is a fresh start, not square one.

Oh, and one more bonus point: All the rushing and ugh-ing we're so wont to do at a point like this? It's often fear dressed up in a good girl sweater.

And the best question to ask when it comes knocking:
✨ If I fully trusted myself…what move would I make next? ✨

Those whispers you hear? They're your intuition talking.

(That’s it. Just the next move. Not the 12-step rollout plan.)

So that’s where I am. Not at the end. Not even halfway, maybe. Just in it.
But I figured I’d bring you with me. Because if you’re in it too, you don’t have to be in it alone.

If this hits? Hit reply and tell me where you’re at in your own pivot. I’d love to hear.

PS. This isn’t about fixing yourself. It’s about finally exiting a system that was never designed for your flourishing.