Hi hi Reader,

Today, I've got a confession for you. And it starts with this: I’m supposed to be the expert in all this stuff I talk and write about.

You know... the radical self-belief. The faith and grace. The raising your hand and saying yes and figuring it out as you go. The "hi, I don't know how to do this, but wheeeee look at me go!"

I’ve been coaching for more than 13 years. I’ve worked with hundreds (thousands?) of clients and students.

And yet...I still struggle with follow-through and how I show up and the amount of faith I hold in any given moment.

Which means, if you’re beating yourself up for learning the same lessons again and again and again—you’re not alone. Pull up a chair, Sweets, because we’re in this together.

Here’s what I really don’t want to tell you:​
The year I just had with my business didn’t look the way I predicted. (Shocking, I know.)

• I didn’t do the things I swore I would.
• The book (still!) didn't get written.
• I didn't blow things up and launch my shop and "get my biz shit together" like I thought I would.

But...I did do a lot. A LOT a lot.

And here’s the confession:​
I’m really good at finding other things to do when the thing I need to do feels too big, too scary, or just too “meh.” I'm a world-class procrasti-number and could win Olympic Gold if avoidance were a sport.

The things I did get done? Oh, they look good. Sound good. Were even useful.

And yet... they also stood between me and what I really want.

(Which means once again, I'm living in the both/and rather than the either/or.)

So here’s what I learned this year:

1. Procrasti-numbing is real—and seductive. And it looks stellar on paper.
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   The to-do list is sneaky, Sweets. Half the battle is noticing when you’re doing “useful” things to avoid doing the important ones.
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2. Taking care of yourself is harder than we think it should be—and still totally worth doing.
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   Tending to your own soil isn’t selfish, it’s necessary SO THAT THE SEEDS YOU WANT TO PLANT CAN GROWN.
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   But here’s the truth: it takes time, energy, and attention—sometimes more than we think we have. The key? Choosing what to let go of so you can bloom.
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3. Radical self-belief changes the game.
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   The magic I feel in my life is directly tied to how much I trust myself. Trust = freedom = joy.
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4. The DF-STAG keeps me grounded.
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   Discernment.
   Faith.
   Spirit-Tending.
   Acceptance.
   Grace.
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   These aren’t just words; they’re my compass. Every time I lose my way, I come back to them.
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5. Teaching is living. Living is teaching.
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   I don’t just teach this work—I practice it. Daily. Because practice doesn’t make perfect. It makes permanent.

Here’s what I want you to consider today (even if it gives you a *gulp* moment!):

• What’s one thing you really wanted at the beginning of the year that you spent the rest of the year avoiding?

Be brave. Write it down, or hit reply and share it with me!

And if you’re struggling with the same old lessons, again and again? It doesn’t mean you’re failing. It means you’re human.

Here’s to finishing the year strong and soft, grounded and growing. With love and a whole lot of crazyfaith.